I’ll come right out and say that my husband, Andrew, has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. We’ve known for a short while and have been coming to terms with the news. I’m not going to go into all the personal details but I will say that I married a beautiful man, full of love, energy, laughter and strength. This is Andrew’s situation, certainly, although of course it affects me and our children, and all of Andrew’s and my family and friends. This isn’t my first experience of cancer – my mother died of cancer of the colon in 1974 – and I know that many of you will also have been affected by the illness, in many different ways. Whatever you think you know about cancer, whatever kind of cancer, it’s different for every person. No one’s situation is the same. You probably already know that.
We’ve gradually been telling people that Andrew has cancer. He didn’t mean to make a big announcement but he’s signed up for Movember – being sponsored to grow a beard or moustache in November to raise funds for research and support into prostate and testicular cancer and men’s health – and shared his page to social media so a lot of our friends and family have now found out. To be honest, it’s a relief to be able to talk about Andrew’s cancer and it’s typical of him to want to do something that might help other people, to be positive and upbeat about what he’s going through, and to understand that I need to talk about it, too.
We’ve already been given a lot of love and support from family, friends, our children’s school, and friends in the writing community I’ve mostly got to know through social media. Thank you, you know who you are.
Life is carrying on. I’m still going off to Suffolk in a few weeks to take part in the Aldeburgh Eight Advanced Seminar – Andrew wouldn’t have it any other way. I won’t be going into every detail of Andrew’s illness. It’s in the early stages, he’s still deciding what course of treatment to undergo, and this isn’t the place to be discussing any of that. Thanks for your understanding.
So now you know a bit more about me. And him.
Andrew’s page at Movember.
Best wishes to you and your family, Josephine.
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Thanks so much, Gillian xx
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my love to you all
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Thank you for such kind message xx
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You seem a wonderful family to me. I wish you all well.
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Aw, thank you for such a kind comment, Lesley! I tend to agree with you but then I would, wouldn’t I? xx
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Sending you all much love, Josephine. xxx
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Thanks, Robert xxx
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Very best wishes to you all, Josephine.xx
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Thanks so much, Jinny xx
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Sending love and wishing you strength all round – and everything else you need. Clare xx
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Thanks so much, Clare. Means a lot, coming from you. xxx
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Thank you for your openness, Josephine, and my best wishes to you and Andrew.
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Thank you, Fiona xx
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Sending my best wishes to you, Andrew and your family xx
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Thank you so much, Anouska xx
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You are very brave and candid, and my thoughts and best wishes are with you both (actually, all the family).
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Thank you, Marina xx
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Good hopes and prayers for you and beautiful Andrew.
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Thank you, Meda xx
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Thinking about you and wishing Andrew all the very best with his treatment and fundraising. x
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Thank you so much, Helen. I really appreciate your support xx
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Dear Josephine, so sorry to hear this upsetting news. Will keep you all very much in my prayers. It seems to strike so many men these days. A couple that I know have lived with it for many, many years, so it seems to progress very slowly. Hope that Andrew will find some good treatment and so glad that he is doing something positive with the fundraising. Lots of love and prayers xxx
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Thank you, Fiona. The tumour is small and slow-growing. Thank you for your love and prayers xx
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I, too, want to send my best wishes to Andrew, you & family. And I will keep you in my thoughts x
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Thank you so much, Elly. I really appreciate your kindness xx
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So sorry to hear this news Josephine. Sending love and best wishes to you, Andrew and your family.
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Thanks, Hilaire xx
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Hope all goes well for Andrew. He sounds like a great guy with a great attitude. Clearly, you chose each other well. xx
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Thanks so much, Jean. I think I got the better deal. Really appreciate your comment. xx
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Oh, I’d like to hear his verdict on that!
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Very best wishes to Andrew, and what a difficult time for you all, Josephine. Thinking of you and looking forward to seeing you at Aldeburgh. R xx
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Thanks, Robin, and thanks so much for the Movember donation. xx
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Sending love to you Josephine, to Andrew and to your children. xx
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Thanks so much, John xxx
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Dear Josephine,
A close friend of mine was diagnosed twelve years ago and is now fit as a fiddle.
Please take heart X
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Thanks for the encouragement, Stephen.
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I have just donated as Stephen Bobe !
Lunchtime drinking for you !
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Thanks, Mr Bobe!
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Sending your lovely family strength at this difficult time Josephine. We pray that Andrew gets well very soon. With love, K, J & S
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Thanks so much, Karen. Love to you all xxx
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So sorry to read this, Josephine – every best wish to you and Andrew through this difficult time; stay positive! Thinking of you.
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Thanks for the kind words, Di.
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